NEG
Mystery writes about NEG HIT Theory!
HERE IS HOW:
A 10 is there surrounded by friends. She has put on this BITCH act. Is she REALLY a bitch? Unlikely.
All my girlfriends were wonderful human beings – beautiful people have it easier because they are
beautiful and often times have better upbringings because of it. BUT – they need to have a standard with
which to uphold when all these NOBODY guys approach her. So her values are very honed and
understood. When a man walks up and says, “can I buy you a beer?” she WILL be annoyed by this.
While the guy thinks he’s doing something nice for her, she gets this ALL the time. She is desensitized to
this. You are the 8th guy TODAY! So she is very good at brushing all these guys off. Shit, she HAS to
be… she isn’t going to sleep with ALL of them! So she may say NO or act annoyed and then the guy
thinks she’s a bitch and walks off pissed and feeling like a failure. And that seems to work. Sometimes
when the girl is particularly in a feeling of control (like in a club where she is PREPARED for the barrage
of men – it IS after all something that occurs so often that when it is GONE she MISSES it)
she will accept the beer and then flake the guy off. Hey, the guys are stupid enough to buy her one, she
might as well take it. When they take a beer from you, the girl is saying to you, “I don’t know you and I
don’t care about you. You are just another one of those typical guys and since I dont respect you, Ill take
the beer from you before I snub you.”
I was with my friend Diane (the 10) and her cute friend (an 8.5 maybe I guess). A guy came up and
asked, “I don’t mean to bother you but would you like to dance with me?” The 8.5, not being used to this
said, “ummm, ahhh …” and the guy gave a puppy dog look and I was smiling at her knowing how pathetic
the guy was so I saw the humor in the situation and the girl said, “ummm, why not. sure.” The guy said,
“REALLY? are you SURE? Wow, I NEVER get girls to dance with me.” What a
pathetic loser. She started talking with Diane and the guy just standing there and they never went for the
dance. weird eh? He then said … to ME… “Can I buy her a beer?” I said, “you can buy ME a beer … but
you’ll have to ask HER.” At this point I knew he was being a hassle to her, she wasn’t interested in the
slightest and felt uncomfortable. I thought is was great to see this occur in front of me – it was highly
educational and more so entertaining. So I say, “Hey, the guy wants to buy you a beer :)” I’m getting into
this now hahahaa. It was great. The girl goes, “ummm, no thank you.” Now Diane (the 10) says, “yes,
she’ll take the beer.” So he buys her a beer. And then he never talks to her again! Weird eh? Well that’s
how it went down.
I digressed. oh well, steady stream of text from my brain … Ill trudge on (sorry reader) … since a 10 is so
GOOD at snuffing your approach (nothing ever personal either – it is a strategy that is built over years of
stupid guys approaches EVERY FUCKING DAY, she will do the same to YOU. That is why
SNUFFING THEM is important. You cant INSULT them because they are used to all the hurt guys
INSULTING them (ahh you are nothing but a bitch!) so this rolls off their back like water off a muskrats
ass. How do you SNUFF them without INSULTING them? Well, let’s say she has long nails which are
most likely
fake. Now why do 10s dress so FINE if they don’t want the attention? Because they LOVE the feeling
of control sometimes. They are in a club with friends and they want to be the leader of the circle (social
hierarchy in primates) and so she gets all the attention. The guys come and buy drinks for them and she
gets off on knocking the guys down. Its all in a days play. Ok, so she is wearing fake nails to look even
BETTER! Most guys will say, “wow you are so beautiful.” BORING, typical and in her mind by now
(after years of the same shit) TRUE. Imagine a guy comes along and says, “nice nails? are they real?” she
will have to concede, “no. acrylic.” and you say (like you didn’t notice it was a put down), “oh. (pause)
well I guess they still
LOOK good.” Then he turns his back to her. What does this do to her? Well, he didn’t treat her like shit and INSULT her. He complimented her but
the result was to target her insecurity. She thinks, “IM HOT IM BEAUTIFUL (especially in that
emotional state of control as in the public)… but I didn’t win this guy over. IM SO GOOD at this. ILL
just fix that little smear on my image that he has of me.” then you continue to show disinterest in her looks
as you giveher a neutral topic like the Elvis script. During this her intention is to get you to become like all
the other guys so she can feel in control and snuff you and you then give her another NEG HIT like this …
“is that a hair piece? well, its neat … what do you call this hairstyle? The waffle? :)” Smile and look at her
to show her you are sincerely being funny and not insulting. You are pleasant but disinterested in her
beauty. This will intrigue her because she KNOWS guys. And this isn’t normal. You must have really high
taste, or be used to girls or be married or something. These questions make her CURIOUS. So this
keeps happening and is known as FLIRTING. She give you little neg hits and these tests are qualifiers.
You pass them by neg hitting her back. After all, you aren’t like the others showing interest. But … why?
To get control again she says, “will you buy me a drink?” notice how she is trying to get you now! BUT,
she only wants to sucker you in enough so she can SNUFF you. That is all she is about – this strategy is
all she knows and it’s not working for you so she is trying to do damage control on the situation. But at
the same time she doesn’t quite understand WHY you don’t think you are great. After all, her nails ARE
fake. You say, “ahhh, thats so funny … you nose moves when you speak… (pointing and being cute) look
there it goes again … its so … quaint … hheeeee looky” 😀 She’ll say, “ahhh, stoppp 🙂 blush*.
Now she is self conscious and having her in this state is where you want her. You have with 3 neg hits
successfully created INTEREST (curiosity) and removed her from her pedestal (removed her bitch
shield.) You were humorous, you had a smile, you dress well, you are confident and everything she
would want in a man.
You didn’t take her shit. OH, and when she asked you for a beer, you said, “no. I don’t buy girls drinks.
but you can buy ME one.” You are qualifying HER now. If she buys you a beer, this is symbolic of her
RESPECT for you.
If not you say, “pleasure meeting you” and turn your back to her again. DONT walk away, just turn your
back. You are neg hitting them again just when they thought she was negging YOU. That is teasing each
other. That is the first step to flirting. This is all textbook psychology. Simple stuff and it works enough for
me to have had 58 girls in 6 years.
A NEG HIT is a qualifier. The girl is FAILING to meet your high expectations. It’s not an insult, just a
judgement call on your part. The better looking the girl, the more aggressive you must be with using neg
hits. A 10 can get 3 neg hits up front, while an 8 only 1 or 2 over a longer time. You CAN go overboard
if they think you are BETTER than them You can drop the self-esteem right from under them (just like
most 10s do to guys) and this isn’t good. You have to get as close to the breaking point as you can
without crossing the line. Once you have gotten her RIGHT THERE, you can start appreciating things
about her (NEVER LOOKS). There is a mutual RESPECT now. Something most guys never get from
the girl.
This is how you remove a bitch shield 3 neg hits oughta do it within 2 or 3 minutes of neutral chat. Once it
is down, you can from a mutual respect place, seduce her. Rapport is to many people poorly defined word. I personally discard the word
because of this and replace it whenever I read it with “Trust and Comfort”. And
yes I have, a teacher of attraction, considered this at length. I don’t want to
have my students wrongly assume what something means. I’ve read many books on
rapport so I have an understanding of several variations of what rapport MEANS.
It boils down to “Trust and Comfort”. This is separate from attraction, which
is a form of envy and curiousity. If a woman learns about you and this
information makes her envious of you (or your situation or social standing) and
curious to know more, she will take the time to “get to know you”. what IS
“getting to know”? it not about obtaining a quantified list of answers to
standard questions. Its about FEELING like the know you. They are concerned
that A) they can trust that you wont make them feel uncomfortable and B) they
have comfort with you. so not only must they have comfort with you before you
can begin to seduce them (which I believe begins when you make ‘a pass’ (which
is not done when you kiss her as that is a rapport building tactic but only
when you have her in a private seduction location like her bedroom or yours)),
but you also need to provide her with enough evidence to suggest that you wont
make her uncomfortable in the future.
So, if you ATTRACT her first (personality conveying), then QUALIFY her (make
her jump through your hoops (HOOP THEORY) to qualify herself to you and then
compliment her on her success in jumping through them (eg: “You’re GERMAN? Oh
my god I love you!” — this one came from a beautiful and intellegent (that’s
rare) exotic dancer last night) so that your kino isnt seen as if you do that
to everyone, then you can go into RAPPORT phase. this means, no more negging
(unless she triggers your PUNISHMENT/REWARD subroutine as usual), no more
BALLBUSTING (I use that term loosely because really ballbusting is a loose term
for what happens during PUNISHMENT/REWARD), and generally being NICE (only when
she deserves it will you PUNISH by either a NEG (not NEG HIT), or ACTIVE
IGNORANCE (where you turn back to her, or lean back from the convo
uninterestedly and fail to proactively hold the convo). The PURPOSE of the
RAPPORT PHASE is to build TRUST and COMFORT. if you have that, then she will
TRUST coming over to you house. She’ll feel comfortable with you … and ‘know’
that you wont make her feel uncomfortable. many times, the biggest obstacle to
your success comes in the form of a “I don’t even know you” objection. This can
be solved with TIME. Take the time to allow her to ‘get to know you’ by
building TRUST and COMFORT because she wouldnt be talking to you that long if
she wasnt already ATTRACTED. With RAPPORT (Comfort and Trust) she will have no
problem with dropping by your house. Then there are way to KEEP her comfortable
to get her in the bedroom. Once on the bed, or even simply on the couch in your
living room (under guise of continuing to buld rapport) you may NOW phase shift
to SEDUCTION mode and make a pass on her. See, getting a bridge made (getting
her # or getting a location meet up) should NOT be seen as a PASS but a way to
continue ‘getting to know eachother’. with attraction comes a CHANCE to build
RAPPORT. with RAPPORT comes trust to come to you SEDUCTION LOCATION (her
place
or yours, sometimes even the car ifyou agree to drive to a secluded place to
‘park and look at the city from the hill’). it is only AT the seduction location that endeavering to make her horny will then reward you with a FULL
MONTY CLOSE (there is only ONE close in this game, and that’s FULL MONTY, the
kiss close is not a close just like biting her neck or pulling her hair is not
a close, they are RAPPORT TACTICS! and the # close is actually a BRIDGE, to
bridge the gap of time between when you part and when you come together again
so you may continue your gameplan). This way, you wont have any LMR (although
you’ll have LMR tactics to what will make her feel COMFORT and TRUST with you
as you penetrate her).
Keep it UP!
Mystery
